8 Motivational Writing Tips..

Let’s Jump Right Into It.

1. Let’s Face It!!

Writing takes commitment, self-discipline, and desire. Never let other distractions get in the way of your writing, set aside time every day to write. … Remind yourself why you are passionate about writing.

2. Remind yourself the REASON why you’re writing.

3. Write, because you have something to say.
It’s about realizing the value you get from writing. So when you finally understand the “why” behind your writing, writing won’t feel like an obstacle.

4. Commit to a daily goal.

200 words. 1 paragraph. 30 minutes. 1 draft.
Whatever daily goal you set, COMMIT to it. No whining. No postponing. NO excuses.
If you’re going to make excuses, lower the numbers until you can.

5. Let yourself write horribly, just get that 1st draft out!

Look, we all face this problem — tweaking our words as we write, for the sole reason of impressing our readers.
Forget about being perfect. Just push out that 1st draft.
Doesn’t matter if it’s short, messy, missing substance. It’s easier to fix a rough draft than to create something entirely from scratch…

6. Find a quiet, clean, well-lit place to write.
The less distracted you are, the better quality your stories become.

7. Take breaks
If you’re burnt out and have 0 motivation to write, give yourself 20 minutes. An hour. A couple days if that’s what it takes to recuperate.

Your brain will tell you when it’s ready to take on a new task…

Your brain will tell you when it’s ready to take forward.

8. Listen to music that fits your writing…

For me when writing. I love jazz, I light candles, and God speaks to me & my pen..!!

Hope this helps.

Be blessed..

By: Demetria Buie
New Living Translation
“This is what the LORD, the God of Israel, says: Write down for the record everything I have said to you, Jeremiah. Jeremiah 30:2

“Deuteronomy 31:24. It came about, when Moses finished writing the words of this law in a book until they were complete.

Letting It All Go!

Happy New Year. 2019

Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” Isaiah 43:18-19.

For a lot of people, the past holds either a difficult childhood, an abusive marriage, or financial issues among other heartbreakingly hard things to deal with.

Yet no matter how painful our past may have been, for some strange reason we often choose not to let go. Yes, I said ‘choose’ because no matter how painful your past is, it cannot hinder your future if you decide not to let it. It’s a matter of choice. You see, if we want to have a better future, we must decide to make a clean break and leave the past behind.

This is not only the best thing you can do but also the biblical thing to do.”Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.” – Philippians 3:13.

In the scripture above, Paul is focused on one thing: winning the prize, doing what God has called him to do. He tells us that he doesn’t have his act totally together, and he’s in the process of becoming what God desires him to be. BUT in order to do that, he knows that he must forget what is behind and focus on the future.

See, Paul knew something that many of us have forgotten. He knew that in order to move forward into the divine destiny that God has in store for us, we’d have to let go of what happened in our past. God can fully heal you and break off any chain if you are willing to believe that He can do it for you.

If you’re still not convinced that God wants you to stop looking back at your past then look at Luke 9:62 where Jesus replied, “No one who puts a hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God.” or go right back to the first book in the Bible and read about how Lot’s wife looked back and became a pillar of salt in Genesis 19:26.

God wants to do a new thing in all of us. A fresh🌺 thing. An unfamiliar thing. Something we have never seen before. He wants to make a way in those circumstances where there seems like there is no way.

But so often, we don’t see it. All we can see are the former things. Those things in our past that sap our time, energy, focus and attention and keep us from seeing all that God has for us.I pray that you will determine to give that past over to God, allow him to handle it for you, and look for the new thing he wants to do for you.

God wants you to be future-focused, and he can help you put behind those things from your past which get in the way.

Allow Him to do a new thing in you. Sign up for my 3 day – Letting it all go program, where I share my journey of forgiving the people who have hurted me. After almost being molested by my aunt’s husband and dealing with a dysfunctional family, I used 8 steps to let go of my past. I’ve created this program to share those steps with you and help you do the same.

Don’t let the former things keep you from what God has for you today.

Are you ready to move past the past? Sign up now. It’s FREE…

3 Ways To Strengthen Your Faith.

“Then Jesus told them, “I tell you the truth, if you have faith and don’t doubt, you can do things
like this and much more. You can even say to this mountain, ‘May you be lifted up and thrown
into the sea,’ and it will happen.”
Matthew 21:21

Have you ever found yourself in a season of waiting?
It’s the time in your life where you feel stuck. You’re not sure what to do next or who to turn to and you find yourself focused on your problems instead of your purpose.
We have all been there and we know that it isn’t the best season to be in. We also know, now that we have come out on the other side, that it gets better. All you need to do right now is strengthen your faith and develop purpose.

Here are 3 ways to do that:

1. Identify the Doubt

You cannot say that you have faith but doubt God’s ability to work in and through you at the same time.
The reason many of us don’t pursue our purpose is because of self doubt. Deep down we know what we should do but we don’t think we can do it. What we don’t realize is that if we could fulfill our purpose by ourselves, in our own abilities, then we wouldn’t need God. This is why God
gives us big and scary dreams that we know we can’t achieve on our own. He wants us to be close to him, always leaning on him to make the impossible possible in our lives.
So the best way to strengthen your faith and develop your purpose is to identify the doubt that is holding you back. Then ask yourself this one question : Is my God not able to do this?

Your answer to that question will strengthen your faith and light a fire within you. You will finally be able to go ahead and pursue your God-given purpose free of fear and doubt.

2. Learn Scriptures

The world has changed a lot and most people have forgotten the power that scriptures hold.
Try saying the scripture: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Phil 4:13), every time you feel inferior or not able to do something. This will work wonders in your life and strengthen your faith because you will soon realize the power within it.

There are tons of other scriptures that will help you in different areas of your life. Set an intention to learn them, it will make all the difference.

3. Take Action

Now that you have found the problem and you’ve been learning scriptures to combat it. It’s time to take action!
You will not be able to see faith in action if you aren’t taking action.
God helps those who help themselves. So do not say that you have enough faith to start that business, build that home, live that dream or write that book and then not take any action towards it.

You may end up losing faith by assuming that God isn’t helping you instead of realizing that God needs you to take the first step in order for him to show you the staircase.
By taking action, you will continue to see that God has your back and your faith will increase.

In this journey of building your faith, remember that faith isn’t a one-step process, and it’s also not a one-stop shop. In order to find and keep faith, you’ll need to practice over and over again.
But that’s okay! With each step you’ll become stronger and stronger until faith is your first reaction to challenges, not fear.
Start today, develop a plan to make 2019 a purpose-driven year where your days are filled with more faith than fear.

Written By: Demetria Buie


Demetria Buie sharing her journey.

Need Help Writing & Publishing Your FIRST Autobiography? 

I am a Christian Writer.

I am a Christian Life-Story Writing-Coach.

You have a desire to write, but perhaps you find yourself frustrated by an inability to develop or organize your writing, or perhaps you’re getting bogged down in the process? Maybe a writing coach can help you. And that’s where I (Demetria Buie) comes in.

This post discusses what a writing coach can do for you, and how I can help you publish your book.

What is a writing coach? Great Question! I do not edit your work, though the writing coach may also be an editor (and/or a writer) by trade. I am NOT a ghostwriter. A writing coach is a guide, and in most other endeavors, the best point in a journey to hire a guide is at or near the beginning, although you’re likely to benefit from a writing coach’s assistance starting at any stage of the writing process.
The relationship between a writing coach and a writer generally begins with a face-to-face or phone interview in which the writing coach asks the writer about the project, what the writer hopes to accomplish with it, and what’s holding the writer back.
A writing coach then helps the writer organize his or her project, determine a schedule, and select a completion date as a goal. The writing coach discusses the stages of a writing project, including an initial outline, preliminary research, a revised outline, more extensive research (and, if necessary, interviews), another revised outline, and various drafts, followed by the editorial process (developmental or substantive editing, copyediting, and proofreading).
A writing coach helps the writer develop a clear and compelling premise or plot, determine a tone, style, and voice based on the intended audience, and produce a coherent, captivating narrative, whether fiction or nonfiction.
A writing coach can help a professional share expertise, a business owner sell a product, an academic report on research, or a student complete an application or course essay. He or she will benefit poets, short story writers, and novelists, as well as authors of nonfiction works, including articles, reports, and book manuscripts.
A writing coach helps elicit the writer’s experience and expertise, guides the writer to develop a creative, productive spatial and temporal environment, and trains the writer to craft effective prose. He or she helps the writer find the heart of the content, what works and what needs work, how to carry out research and conduct interviews, and how to frame and organize the material (and what to include and what to leave out).
A writing coach helps the writer focus, provides an objective perspective, and guides and encourages. A writing coach is like a personal trainer for a writer. A writing coach is a mentor.
Writing coaches are likely to charge writers more per hour for their services, but their role is ultimately less costly than that of a developmental editor or copy editor, or even a proofreader. A writer may consult with a writing coach for only a few hours in all, but even if this stage in the writing process takes longer, it is probably well worth the expense — you’re virtually guaranteed to benefit from the relationship, and to get that much closer to completion of the project and eventual publication.

I am an independent author.

I have published 35 books, and have helped over 40 ladies write & publish their Life-Story.

I’m also working on new projects that will soon be announced this year.

I am an praise dance instructor for youth girls.

I also own my own magazine called “Empowering Women To Speak Out”

If you like to find out more about me go to my website at http://www.mydbpublications.com and contact me for your 30 minute consultation for only $45.00. https://form.jotform.com/72574496974172

Email: Refusetolose30@gmail.com

If you would like to hire me as your Writing-Coach. I’m here to help YOU!

I became a Writing-coach in 2016.

I been writing every since I was 9 years old.

I’ve always loved a good pen & Notebook, colorful ones 😆. Just to write my thoughts down, and how I was feeling.

I never thought I would become an Author.

Never thought I would be helping others.

God had a plan for my life, that I didn’t even know about. Amen.

This is my passion. “On Fire To Write”7

I love to see others succeed. :)👍✊💞


What do you do if you are in an abusive relationship?

Abuse is NOT love! LOVE is not abuse!

Love does not hurt. The abuse is not your fault.

You did NOT cause the abuse. You can not stop the abuse.

*DISCUSS YOUR CONCERNS: It is never too late to make your feelings clear with your partner. If expressing your concerns leads to abuse, get HELP. This is not of God or LOVE.

*TRUST YOUR GUT. IF you have concerns about someone you are dating or want to date, trust your feelings. If the person refuses to discuss your concerns, you should not go out with them.

*BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. It’s common to question whether the abuse took place, or whether it was really “that bad”. But it is important to believe your feelings.

Never let loneliness make you silent. And accept abuse.



*Is very jealous towards you?

*Makes you afraid to disagree?

*Wants to get to serious too fast?

*Threatens to hurt you?

*Call you names, insults you?

*Makes you tell where you are all the time?

*Blames you when becoming angry or losing control.

*Pressures you to have sex?

*Threatens to commit suicide if you try to leave them?

*Gets mad when you spend time with your family?

*Gets mad when you want to workout?

*Tells you what to wear?

*Always hitting you? Then gift you and promises to never do it again?

*Can’t go anywhere by yourself?

*Checks your phone constantly?

Do you think it’s time to end the relationship?

Get Empowering Women To Speak Out.

August 25 2016

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Life-changing Magazine.


The Door way to A better Me. 

Demetria Buie shares some insight on her upcoming book.

In theory we all want to be better; better friends, better spouses, better people, whatever.
But getting there is easier said than done.
When you think about becoming better do you picture becoming someone else? Someone you admire?
If so, you are looking at it all wrong.
In order to become better you need to focus on being a better you, not changing yourself into another person.
That just won’t work. You are unique, one of a kind, and priceless. However we can all use improvement.  Through my positive eyes. Will be available September 1, 2016 at http://www.refusetolose31.com for just $12.00.

The Clean Glass

A poem written by Demetria Buie.
Copyright 2016
“The Clean Glass”
How long will it take for you to see? ” To see through a clear window glass. I say to myself, ” Is the glass clear? Is it clean? ” I see ” but I really can’t see. Can someone make it more clear? ” Can someone clean it once more? “Excuse me; It’s clean, but I still can’t see. How long will I have to wait for someone to clean it again? “Trying to see through this dirty glass is hurting me! Can someone please clean it for me? “Excuse me ma’am; Are you blind? No sir, I just can’t see. It doesn’t matter rather it’s clean or dirty, I still won’t be able to see. Lord; why did this have to happen to me? ” Maybe I should just break this glass, then I’ll be able to see! “Has God forgotten me? ” Because this glass is killing me.
How many times does he have to hit you for you to see?

How many women does he have to sleep with for you to see? How many, lies will you let her tell? How many, times does he have to show you, he will not be there? How many times does she have to show you she won’t care? How many years will you wait? How many babies will you have for someone to say; I care? How long will you keep your past buried? How long will you both go to church acting like y’all care, when you two really don’t care ? How long, will you continue to wait up for him, on those cold lonely nights? I LOVE HIM! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! Oh I see; so if he slept with 47 different women in your marriage, do you have to forgive and stay?” Wait No! It was only 10 women. Oh; I mean; only 3 women. Oh I see.” I stayed because I loved him, who else will want? It’s been too many years, I mightiest well stay. If you clean my glass just once more, then maybe I’ll be able to see. Clean my glass, so that I can see pass my past. Clean my glass, so that I can start loving me. Clean my glass, so I won’t continue to wait on someone who don’t want me. Clean my glass, so that I may find forgiveness. Clean my glass, so that I want be bitter. Clean my glass, so that I can know when to move on. Clean my glass, so I’ll know that I have a purpose here on earth. HELLO????????????!!!!!!!! Has anyone cleaned my glass yet? “So that I may see. Copyright2016image

The clean Glass